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Busyness is Bullsh*t

Posted on October 22, 2018 by Margaret Schlachter

Has someone asked you recently how you are doing and your default answer is “busy.” Yeah, me too until I stopped. I realized that busyness is bullshit! Somehow we cultivated this idea that the busier we are the more we will be successful. Again, I call bullshit.

Okay, let me paint a picture for you as I have seen it over and over again on several social media accounts of people who are in the entrepreneurial game. If you click on their profile every photo looks like a professional photo shoot. Like they have their own personal professional photographer following them around. Maybe they are married to a professional photographer who wants to follow them around all day, but more likely they did one or two shoots and recycle the photos for their inspirational posts about succeeding and how for xxx amount of dollars you can live their life too. I’m not buying it.

If you move over to their stories they will undoubtedly make a few videos a day telling you about their hustle, how they are so busy, how they seem to fit it all in, and how they are “killing” the entrepreneurial game by being busy. In the morning they will tell you how many meetings they have (from the car) and say how they are wondering if they will get to the gym (guess what they always do). This has become such a “thing” that even the brilliant JP Sears made an Ultra Spiritual about it.

 

 

If you have been in my world you have seen this. It’s becoming a social norm. I don’t knock the people who do think this is a badge of success. We have been conditioned to think this way in the social media age. If you feel like I am attacking you, I’m not. You are just trying to get by and do your best in this world.

This summer I did an online workshop on our mental game and how our brain works in business and life. Props to Brain by Design. One of the things we talked about was busyness. If you are playing the busyness game you are never able to get into that creative space to “let it flow”.

How many ideas come to you in the shower, on a run, gardening, attempting to meditate, or in the middle of the night when you wake up from a deep sleep? 

What do all these things have in common? You are singularly focused on one thing and often when you “clear your mind” like those activities above tend to do. We open our mind for creative endeavors. Guess what doesn’t open that mind? Being busy for the sake of being busy.

So again I call bullshit on being busy as a path to success. Yes, you will work hard to reach your goals. Yes, it will take time and energy. But what it often doesn’t take is being busy and posting about your busyness on social media.

Imagine if all the time and energy you took to craft a perfect busy social media life was instead spent with your family, friends, or just with yourself? 

Sport taught me success isn’t what happens when people are watching. It happens behind the scenes, it’s the things you do and the time you spend to create in the real world that helps you reach your goals. We all have a lot on our plate, but we don’t have to buy into the busyness myth.

Let’s say F*CK YOU to busyness at least telling the story online that busyness is a badge of honor. Let’s instead get to work, and spend that time creating, exploring, and just doing or just relaxing.

I talk about this more on the podcast tomorrow (episode 132) but let’s celebrate our free time, our unstructured time we can create, love, and play. Let’s start scheduling in unstructured time into our week, a time we can just be and play.

F*CK YOU BUSYNESS

I AM NOT BUYING IT ANYMORE.